The only benefit being is that the Ex is completely out of the picture. We didn't have biological children together- so no ugly drawn out custody battles. He also moved out of state. So besides the occasional drunk text or random email to my Dad, I've been virtually Ex free for almost 2 years now. Today I received a text from the Ex wishing me well. I've finally healed to the point where I don't scream in my head "DIE DIE! PAINFUL AND SLOWLY! DIE!!!!!" when I see his name come across my phone and there was a morbidly curious part of me that wanted to text back just to see what current drama he was in. I'm sure Good Twin would beat me senseless were I to reply to his text
"Remember that time you got wasted in the Wegman's and called him up just to have him sing over the phone like a trained monkey? Bad idea Evil Twin!!!!!"
(I so love her for putting up with me!)
So yeah, now that I look at it like an adult- I know that encouraging communication with the Ex is a bad idea. And since I have no intention of rekindling a friendship with him- the right thing to do is just delete the text and move on.